Ever want to just stand in the middle of a ring of children and throw your head back and let it all out!
Today I did it! Between being "MOM" ed to death, the bickering, with the occasional fight over who's turn is next, and "When are we leaving?" I thought I was keeping my cool, but they seemed to have reached level of how can I outsmart Mom.
LMAO, not that they saw it. Instead I just threw my head back and yelled at the top of my lungs. Childish I know, but it felt great and seeing the looks on their stunned faces had everyone smiling.
Then I guided Preston to the fridge where I have a list of house rules posted (with my kids, I tend to focus more behavoiur then chores).
Our house rules:
1. Your room is your room. No one can enter without your permission, except mom and dad when needed.
2. Always knock before entering another's room.
3. Please help when asked.
4. Make a mess clean it up.
5. Don't interrupt
6. Share
7. Use your words.
9. Use your manners.
10. Hitting, fighting, breaking things or throwing things, will give you and instance TIME IN.
With three boys I find the number ten is the one the kids struggle with. However, today, Preston and Cyrus were fighting over who's turn it was again. Preston became frustrated and picked Cyrus up and tossed him on the sofa. Cyrus was fine, and thought it was kind of fun too I'm sure. Nevertheless he ran up stairs to tell on his brother.
Preston's defense :"But I didn't hit, him."
To which I pointed out number ten again and explained throwing things also included your brother.
Preston took his seat on the stool to watch me work in the kitchen, while Cyrus scampered off.
I had to keep my chuckles and smiles on the inside. Everything is now back normal, and I can put my focus into something I don't really enjoy, but do it anyways. Baking ugh. (Cooking is so much more exciting!)
Just wondering about a post from much earlier. In it you mentioned that you had heard it is sometimes difficult in Ontario to adopt children internationally over the age of 3. Did you ever find out any more details about this. I, too, have heard this. Just wondering.....Thanks, Sarah.
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ReplyDeleteThe Ontario government discourages older child international adoptions. This is due to the extreme high number of children adopted from Romania in the 80's & 90's that were surrendered to the CAS, (I believe it was over 50%).
It is possible to adopt and older child internationally in Ontario but read up extensively on RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder), Special Needs Children, Parenting an older adopted child, children in orphanages, attachment issues, and anything else you think you should know. I will confess I read anything that I could get my hands on, even took parenting classes. I also have a tutor helping me learn Russian once a week.
I didn't want there to be any doubt that I wasn't commited, and would do whatever it took to make this happen.
I am assuming that because I did all this there was no issue with us adopting.
I hope this gave you some insight.
Cheers.
Hi Veronica. Thanks for the info and congratulations on your recent approval. So happy for you. I will be sure to check back regularly to keep up with your progress.
ReplyDeleteThanks again, Sarah.
Your are very welcome. Best of luck to you.
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